parking lot conversations
to follow up on the past post: “ping pong conversations“, i also have some of the best conversations in parking lots. i was talking with some black students in my class and they were saying how they too spend a lot of time loitering in the parking lot just talking or trying to figure out where to go next. a typical conversation goes like this:
person A: hey, let’s go. where do you guys want to eat?
person B: i don’t care, i just don’t want mexican.
person C: yeah, i don’t want asian, but i don’t care.
person D: hey, how about _________?
person B: no, i don’t want to go there, i went there yesterday.
person D: ok, how about _________?
person C: no, i don’t feel like that place.
person B: i don’t really care, let’s just go somewhere.
person A: hey, did you guys hear about michael phelps winning 11 gold medals and winning the most gold medals of anyone ever?
person D: yeah i heard about that. it was amazing!
(after 15 minutes)
person A: hey, let’s go, where do you guys want to eat?
or sometimes it’s not even about where to go eat. sometimes you’re about to go home and you get started into a really good conversation. i feel like these are some of the best conversations i’ve ever been involved in. there’s something about being in a parking lot that is very intimate. maybe it’s the fact that you know you’re about to go somewhere else that gives you an urgency to get it all out in the parking lot before you go. for myself, it’s really hard to exit a conversation anyways, so sometimes i’ll stay for a really long time. or i’ll be trying to leave and i’m continuing the conversation with one foot in the car about the turn on the ignition.
what me and the black students brought up was that white people aren’t really like that. white people just get in their cars and leave. we’re thinking it’s something cultural. there’s definitely something very efficient about just leaving, but i wonder how many good conversations i would miss out on.
Written by enoch
August 13, 2008 at 8:28 pm
Posted in social observation
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