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sibling systems cont.

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continuing on with yesterday’s post on sibling systems, i was discussing how sibling order and sibling relations directly or indirectly affects the personality one owns as a person.

3 sibling systems are a little different than 2.  i actually love 3 sibling families.  i’m hoping to have 3 kids when/if i become a father.  i just think that people who grew up in 3 sibling households are some of the most interesting people i’ve ever met.  not dissing the 2 sibling families (cause i come from one), but 3 sibling families just intrigue me.  maybe it’s the odd number that tickles my fancy.  you can’t have even matches, someone’s going to have to choose a side and outnumber the other.  anyways, here we go:

all girls – i’m not sure if i know any 3 girl families, but i’m going to give it a shot.  oldest girl is probably the most independent.  the middle girl i think i’d feel bad for.  the oldest would seem to be the pride and joy and the youngest is the baby who would get anything she wants.  the middle is just kinda stuck there.  is probably pretty strong mentally and emotionally as they’ve had to struggle through being the middle child.

all boys – i’d say kind of similar to the all girls story.  the oldest is probably the one the parents invested everything into, the youngest is the last kid so he gets everything he wants and the middle kid has to suck it up.  probably gets overlooked a lot, or if the youngest is really annoying, maybe the middle kid is the new favorite.

two older sisters – the youngest brother is pretty sensitive, or they may try to overcompensate and be very guys’ guy kind of person.  the son probably gets more attention being the only son and the heir to the throne.  the oldest sister probably isn’t too close with the brother as the age difference if greater and there’s another girl sibling between them.  the middle sister is probably the bridge between the older sister and younger brother and in that way the middle child is pretty versatile.

two older brothers – i think i’d feel bad for the youngest sister.  the sister is probably on her own while the brothers do their own thing.  pretty much a 2 brother family with a 1 daughter family split.

middle sister – i would think that the middle sister is pretty tough growing up taking care of a younger brother and being taken care of by an older brother.  older brother is typical older brother and younger brother is probably well behaved having an older sister.

middle brother – depending on the age differences, the middle brother is probably closest to the farther age distanced sibling mostly because usually the closer siblings are in age, the more they don’t get along.  once again the brother is probably well behaved due to having an older sister taking care of him.

there’s also the 2 younger sisters and 2 younger brothers families, but this is taking a long time, and i think i’m running out of things to say.  i still haven’t talked abou twins or only child families.  maybe those will have to wait until a later time.

once again, i don’t claim to be an expert.  especially with these systems.  these are merely observations or guesses at the least.  a lot of these depend on age differences.  if the yongest is way way younger than both older siblings, that changes everything.  and also if the oldest is way way older than both younger siblings, that changes everything.

man, i’m tired now.


Written by enoch

August 20, 2008 at 11:43 pm

Posted in social observation

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  1. where do you find the pictures for your posts? they’re so perfect!!


    August 21, 2008 at 2:36 am

  2. eberrybody thinks im only child n then get like a surprisattacko when i tell themi have 2 older funny..1st bro is the smartest;2nd bro is agressive n n laffholic..1st bro gets most attention coz hes boy n the smartest…2nd is the most good lookin as people say;people just fly over 2 him…they r both protective^____^ if someone messes with me they in trouble^____^


    August 21, 2008 at 10:15 am

  3. Me? Sensitive? No way…….

    Actually the 2 older sisters thing is pretty true… for my family at least…


    August 21, 2008 at 3:12 pm

  4. heeeyyyy…. i’m from a family of three girls…. AND i’m the middle child…


    August 21, 2008 at 5:35 pm

  5. sweet i’m glad you love my family… hahaha…

    i would say with three siblings (2 older sisters and 1 younger brother): the middle child is the most independent because like you pointed out they have to fend for themselves…

    -the oldest child gets the most babying/protection because they are the guinea pig…

    -the younger siblings get more freedom because they are not as babyed to a certain extent… also as older sister gets stuff (to be old enough to do this or that) younger siblings benefit too because they want to be part of that…

    -the youngest brother gets the most benefits in a lot of the sense because he is the boy and most traditional korean households favor the boy… more sports, more freedom… however i think as he gets older more responsibility gets dumped on him because now he is representing the family name… except he might not be so well prepared after all things being handed to him (spoiled). they also tend to be more sensitive having been around so many girls…

    -the middle child is most independent and in a lot of ways more responsible..having to fend for themselves makes them more resourceful and not as wasteful since afterall they worked hard to get what they have…

    -oldest child sometimes can be not as responsible because parents are overly protective and they don’t learn how to do things on their own… however they tend to be the closest to the parents… sometimes becoming parents confident since they are the oldest…

    -the funny thing is that even though the oldest and the youngest brother may have more favortism or have been babyed more… oftentimes the weight is on their shoulders the most… being the oldest you have to set a good example for younger siblings…. being the only boy you are carrying on the family name… you better get your act together…

    -oh yeah as the oldest… growing up especially…. that means whatever your younger siblings do is always your fault because you should have been watching out…



    August 28, 2008 at 12:04 pm

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