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too much offense makes one defensive

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do you know those people who take offense at seemingly little things?  something that you don’t think twice about can offend someone greatly.

i watched tropic thunder this afternoon and i had seen on the news earlier that some people protested the movie on opening night because of the gratuitous use of the word “retard”.  a lot of mental disability organizations got together and protested the movie.  now, i’m not one to take a side here.  i’m sure the organizations were greatly offended by the word and i’m sure the movie producers meant nothing harmful by it as a lot of people use the word without really purposefully making fun of mentally handicapped people.  but it makes you think.

what sets people off?  sometimes seemingly small things can turn someone off completely.  how do we know when we crossed the line?  unfortunately most of the time we don’t know until it’s too late and we’ve already offended someone.  and usually it’s someone that we’re close to.  i wish sometimes that people had a list of things they were offended by on their shirt so that you knew what to avoid.

but what happens when people are offended by something that you feel strongly about?  sometimes i feel like people get too sensitive about certain things.  i’m pretty sure i’m not the only one.  sometimes you just want to be like, “buddy, c’mon!  get over it!  it’s not a big deal.  you don’t have to get offended over it.”  now i’m as sensitive as the next guy (probably moreso than the next guy), but there has to be a limit you know?  you can’t always tip-toe around every little thing people might get offended by.  where do you draw the line?


Written by enoch

August 25, 2008 at 10:48 pm

Posted in social observation

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  1. no one should be offended by anything; either the speaker lacks a sense of discernment and wisdom when running his/her mouth off that shows ignorance and should be promptly ignored (as a nobody) or the offended lacks utter respect for other people’s opinions (no matter how wrong they may actually be) that he/she is to be discounted as a respectable human being as well (also a nobody).


    August 25, 2008 at 11:16 pm

  2. “but whenever possible, don’t be a jerk. humor that hurts no one is definitely a lot better than humor that hurst someone even if you don’t get the laughs you wanted. let’s play it safe people” – enoch chang

    I get offended (am sensitive) when people use bad grammar, curse excessively, attribute things as “retarded” or gay” incorrectly, ask me if I’m fully Korean, etc. But for me, as long as it wasn’t personal, I just brush it off and assume that the offender has a lack in education about being offensive. Although I could take the effort to correct their behavior, I usually don’t because I feel as though someone with more talent and influence will take care of it later (plus, no one really listens to my soft-spoken criticisms anyway :mrgreen:)


    August 25, 2008 at 11:24 pm

  3. Did you disable graphical smileys because they offend you? 😦

    I really enjoy typing :mrgreen:


    August 25, 2008 at 11:26 pm

  4. Oh, you didn’t. I guess that if you type a closed parentheses after typing the WordPress smiley codex it won’t display graphically. ( :mrgreen: )


    August 25, 2008 at 11:28 pm

  5. i used to do this a lot. offending people. now i try to talk less. although lately i’ve been feeling kinda jaded so i haven’t being watching what i say. i think i offended some of my chinese friends the other day O.o wah wah wah.


    August 26, 2008 at 3:58 am

  6. Have you ever said something you thought would be really funny and then realize that no one’s laughing?

    Eric Yi

    August 26, 2008 at 8:01 am

  7. theres a fine difference between playfulteasin n downright degradin teasin …people who do degradin teasin shall just die…


    August 26, 2008 at 10:42 am

  8. we watched tropic thunder on friday, and i had read that there were groups offended/upset about the use of the word ‘retard’. And I used to not be as upset about it until I took education classes and you learn/interact with children with disabilities. I was upset over the excessive use of the word ‘retard’ and how they connected people with disabilities with words like ‘idiot’, etc.


    August 26, 2008 at 1:07 pm

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