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don’t be modest

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modest-hotpinkso i admit, sometimes, it’s just second nature for me to be modest.  so what’s wrong with that?  why do i admit it?  well, the thing is, a lot of it is false modesty.  i just can’t help it.  even though i know i could crush the average person in a game of mariokart or a singing competition, when someone asks if i’m any good, without me even thinking about it, the first words out of my mouth are, ” nah, i’m not that good.”

why do i do this?  and i know i’m not the only one.  why do we do this?  true a little modesty is a good thing.  no one wants to be that person who says, “i’m the best at everything so you best get up off me.”  but for some people, we just can’t help but deny good things said about us even when we know they’re true.  maybe it’s the asian in me that rejects the compliment or refuses to tell people how awesome i am at… i dunno, origami or something.  or maybe there’s some kind of deep, psychological, emotional reason why i can’t admit my skeelz.

here are responses i’m working on to the question, “are you good?”

– “sucka, i will crush you!”

– “no, i suck, but i’m still better than you”

– “why, you want some of this?”

– “i was good 5 years ago, now i’m great”

– “i’d say i’m pretty good, other people say i’m awesome”

or i guess you could just go the boring route and be honest:

– “yeah, i’m pretty good.  i took 5 years of lessons.  and got a full-ride college scholarship for it.”

i guess most of these sound like cocky things a jerk would say.  do you have anything better?

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Written by enoch

November 10, 2008 at 1:24 am

Posted in from my mind

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  1. i like the second one. haha.

    kt

    November 10, 2008 at 1:33 am

  2. “why thank you!”

    hyungulee

    November 10, 2008 at 2:14 am

  3. 1st part: “some say good, some say not” which gives that person a good 50:50 feel. so even if you appeal to that person as this cocky character, you’re only half cocky..
    2nd part: “hey, why don’t you be the judge of that?” which gives them the freedom to decide whether you’re good or not, which also gives you a new perception of your talents to the existing perception people have on your talents. (i don’t know if you get the 2nd part.. the wording’s kinda off)
    so.. go stand in front of the mirror and repeat “some say good, some say not. hey, why don’t you be the judge of that?” 😀

    heej

    November 10, 2008 at 10:24 am

  4. i use false modesty…to try to be humble….not sure if that is right to do….

    dtongkas

    November 10, 2008 at 12:58 pm

  5. False modesty is similar to insincere kindness and should be avoided.

    When people say things like, “Oh man, I totally BOMBED that test”, when they get a B+ and I get a F, it irks me like none other!!! 👿

    tonEX

    November 10, 2008 at 1:16 pm

  6. just look at that person who asked you the question, and start laughing

    Anonymous

    November 10, 2008 at 3:03 pm

  7. person a:”no, your awesome!”
    person b:”no,no your awesome!”
    Person a:no no no ,your awesome!”…

    this way you and your friend share awesomeness together!!
    and live happily everafter!^__^

    Anonymous

    November 10, 2008 at 6:32 pm

  8. I agree with tonex. I try to be as sincere as possible without offending. It also depends on the person, like how well you know them etc, but being brutally blunt is funny!

    eric lam

    November 12, 2008 at 5:02 pm

  9. i think we just want to hear the complement again.

    A:”Yo man you’re really good!”
    B:”No no I’m really not good”(yes say it again)
    A:”No man your really good, seriously”

    You know what would be awesome, to shove someones false modesty back in their face.
    A: “Yo man you’re really good!”
    B: “No no I’m really not that good”
    A: “Actually now that I think about it…you sorta suck”

    sourhippo

    November 13, 2008 at 2:55 am

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