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awkward silence

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rockpaperscissorspu3i’m really good at these.  i don’t know why.  i just have a gift for cutting conversations short and fumbling to start a new one:

awkward me: so how was your day?

“friend”: good.

awkward me: what’d you do?

“friend”: nothing much.

[awkward silence]

awkward me: so those lakers suck huh?

“friend”: i don’t watch sports.

[long awkward silence]

“friend”: k, i have to go, bye

awkward me: [dying inside] bye…

ok, so maybe this was a little exaggerated, but i’ve actually had a couple conversations like this one.  in my head i’m just screaming out loud, “oh my gosh!!  how uncomfortable is this?!?!?  say something!!  say anything!!!  this is the longest anyone has not talked.  ever!”  and i know a lot of this has to do with my people pleasing side.  i want to know that the other person is enjoying my presence and doesn’t want to flee like i want to.  haha.  double standard, i know.  i guess part of it is that i want people to enjoy being around me and i think that awkward silences are displays of discomfort.  i have a friend who said that he likes awkward silences (you know who you are).  and i could not even imagine liking to be in that situation.  weirdo.

so how do you deal with it?

talk through it: i envy you because you’re a really good conversationalist.  you make the other person feel at ease and you feel comfortable being with that person at the same time.  me and you should get together and have awkward times together.  i think i’d feel comfortable with you.

let it ride: some awkward silence is ok.  if conversation comes up, or if something triggers conversation, that’s fine.  you don’t let it bother you like it does to me.

not care: what?  you think you’re better than me or somethin’?  how can you not care about awkward silences?  you’re just gonna sit there and wait it out until one of us leaves the conversation.  you’re not even gonna try.

care too much and make an idiot out of yourself: this is me pretty much.  “uhhh… uhhh…. so what you do?” “did you know that chickens can run around even when their heads are cut off?”  which inevitably leads to more awkward silences.  gosh!!!

actually, i just remembered i already covered this in a previous blog

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Written by enoch

June 11, 2009 at 10:35 am

Posted in social observation

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  1. i think i tend to sit back in my own little world so often that once the silent moment starts, i immediately start having my own personal thoughts. so in a sense, i don’t realize that the silence is awkward cuz i’m having fun in my own thoughts. that is probably why i don’t think silence is awkward and i guess.. that explains why i’m such an awkward person to be with.. x_X

    have you ever thought that you’re not the awkward person but the person you’re talking to is awkward? idk, just asking.

    heej

    June 11, 2009 at 2:18 pm

  2. you could try to tell a joke. a very corny joke. sometimes i do that and realize that it was very awkward place / time to tell a joke. which makes it even more awkward. then i go to a corner and poke at my phone.

    do do do…

    hg

    June 12, 2009 at 1:04 am

  3. I am very awkward. haha but its probably how i approach things. =p

    D.J.

    June 16, 2009 at 10:15 am


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