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bffso i’m reading this book for one of my classes about these high school girls and the different issues that they face.  it’s a fictional book following a character named tabitha and her life as a teenage girl.  i get really stressed out reading this book because i realize how many things young girls have to think about or deal with or balance.  when i stop reading, i feel like i have a million things to do, when i really only have about a thousand.  i mean, this girl balances her friends (all of which seem to be her best friend even though she only considers one to be her best friend) and makes sure she spends time with them and not only that, but makes sure she talks with each of them everyday; she works, does homework, choir, has a boyfriend, church youth group, has cool yet restrictive parents.  it’s so much.

there’s this one part of the book where tabitha goes to one of her mentors that she works with (who’s in college) and asks her if she still keeps in contact with her high school friends.  the other girl then responds, “no, not really.”  tabitha is shocked.  “even your best friends?”  “yeah, we just kind of lost touch after high school.”  tabitha can’t believe it.  her whole life revolves around her friends and she can’t imagine ever losing touch with them.

ahhh… how naive.  to think that you’ll be best friends with your high school friends for life.  i mean, i’m sure that does happen in some cases, but i think we would all agree that it’s definitely not the rule, it’s the exception.  is it sad?  i don’t think so, but then again, i’m a heartless robot who has no feelings.  high school friends?  psh!  life goes on.  you’re going to meet new people, new friends (hopefully) and more people who share the same likes, dislikes, activities, humor, as you do.  or maybe it’s because i didn’t really have a lot of close friends in high school that i can totally dismiss it like this.  but i can see in friends around me that staying close with high school friends isn’t a common trait that most people share.

it’s funny how you think about friends in high school versus friends as an adult.  bff?  nah man.  more like bffn: best friends for now.  wow, i’m cold.  cold as ice.  but isn’t it true?  can someone back me up on this?


Written by enoch

September 16, 2009 at 12:03 pm

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  1. Yea. I think its true in most cases. I’ve lost touch with a few of my best friends in high school. Well occasionally we talk, but not as in depth as we used to. But I know friends who has a tight circle of friends and have been doing things together since middle school. So I wouldn’t dismiss the possibility of not staying bff after hs.


    September 16, 2009 at 12:24 pm

    [2 seconds of silence.. then a million thoughts coming to mind]

    YOU’RE COLD AS ICE?!?!?!?!?
    [another million thoughts kicking in.. going frantic, not knowing where to start the thought process]

    mannnn, i DON’T KNOW you and you just complicated my life by adding on 2 million of thoughts in addition to my own million..

    hahahaha, girls =P gotta love ’em. and no, i DON’T think like that 😀


    September 16, 2009 at 12:49 pm

  3. yes, i can back you up on that.
    bff=idealistic, unless one’s a social beast and keeps in touch with the bff (or bffs) for 50+ years..
    man, that takes some effort for sure.
    ..and i ain’t that type of beast! so yeah, i’m with ya, bffn!! eeks, i’m cold as snow.


    September 16, 2009 at 12:58 pm

  4. i am blessed coz i only have 4best friendies n weve known each others since we could dribble n then now i have bajillion friendies that i also have 2 say hi too!

    random:boys have passionns 4 cheesecake!is this true?? 🙂


    September 16, 2009 at 1:08 pm

  5. I agree mostly. Although I think bffn can hit bf status pretty easily if it ever falls out of it with some time spent together.

    If it cannot, then were we really bffn?


    September 16, 2009 at 2:23 pm

  6. haha that is cold!! 😛

    but i think it depends on how much a person has jung. People with a lot of jung hold onto their friendships and work at it to keep them.

    I don’t think I have that much jung.


    September 16, 2009 at 4:57 pm

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