chang|e one's mind

i wrote a song… in my mind

blinded by your self

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do you have those friends who perpetually ruin relationships or always have conflict and it just keeps on going and going?  doesn’t matter who it’s with, they’re going to find a way to ruin that relationship or introduce some kind of conflict in the midst of that relationship.  and the thing they don’t realize is that the only common thing in all their relationships is them.  they are the ones who are ruining each relationship.  they’re quick to blame everyone else but don’t realize it’s them that needs to change.

i have friends like this.  and sometimes, i can be like this.  sometimes it’s hard to see things in yourself that others see so well – good and bad.  what’s hard is being able to step back and looking for those things that you need to change.  but it’s something that’s sorely needed because the consequences not changing have terrible and often destructive effects on your relationships.  i think what’s dangerous is when people don’t realize these destructive flaws they carry and continue to drive forward in life keeping those relationship-ruining habits, all the while they’re left wondering why everyone around them is such a jerk and not taking the time to see that it just might be them.

wouldn’t it be great if we had mirrors that showed us what other people see?  not in the superficial sense, but the way we see others’ characteristics and flaws and problems so clearly, what if we could see ourselves with that kind of clarity?

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Written by enoch

October 12, 2010 at 7:49 pm

Posted in social observation

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  1. hey… it sounds like me. no? the speck, the plank, and me.

    heej

    October 12, 2010 at 10:44 pm

  2. It is indeed a shame self perception is always skewed. Obviously we’re human and we can only help to be subjective about ourselves but if we could also be completely objective about ourselves, without letting the subjective get in the way, you think we would still be better people? For example, there are definitely negative things I recognize about myself, but I sometimes I just rationalize. And other times, it’s something I decide I can’t change… or perhaps don’t even want to change. You feel me, Enocalypse?

    squirt

    October 19, 2010 at 1:34 am

  3. i feel you, squirt. i guess for me it’s more of not seeing the things you want to change or that you’d like to change if only you could see them.

    enoch

    October 19, 2010 at 10:28 am

  4. very true. of myself. and others. where was that one passage in the bible about someone who reads the word and not do them, is like a one who sees oneself in the mirror and forgets what he looks like?

    clivelee

    October 22, 2010 at 2:21 pm


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